Recently I had the opportunity of hearing Judge Thomas B. Griffith of the U.S. Court of Appeals for the District of Columbia Circuit speak. Although Griffith was the main speaker, he was preceded by three speakers from the organization he was addressing.
Many keynote speakers use the time someone else is presenting to review their notes. Others sit politely awaiting their turn. Griffith listened.
He began his speech by quoting a remark made by the first speaker and commenting on the insight and significance of the remark. He did the same for the second and third speakers. Then he tied their remarks into his theme.
This does three things:
- The other speakers feel great. The "main attraction" that the audience has come to hear has recognized and validated what they said. What a wonderful compliment.
- The audience feels great. The earlier speakers are more representative of the majority of the audience than the main speaker is. Complimenting those speakers indirectly compliments the audience.
- The speaker comes across as a good guy. Even though he is a judge on what many people consider the second highest court in the land, Griffith demonstrates he values other people and connects to the audience.
Lesson: Listening is one of the most powerful ways to show respect, especially when it is demonstrated by referring to a specific comment the speaker has made. When you're not speaking, listen to what others are saying.



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